Just realised a lot of people break up because of the Army. Well of course it doesn't affect everyone directly, but you get what i mean. Every male in this nice little red dot of a city has to serve, and for better or worse, everyone, well almost everyone, emerges a different person at the end of it. But through this process, is there a price inherent to pay?

A girlfriend who is used to spend most of her free time with her man now suddenly finds him only available during weekends. Worst still if all he wants to do then is to rest and 'take it easy'. Frequent phone chats and meeting after school are now replaced with calls at night and occasional messaging. Then comes along one day someone who is able to fill the void, to take her out and make her laugh like the boyfriend used to, able to pamper her as he's working with a stable income, isn't any wonder why our women leave us?

Behind the scenes, you sleep at 1030, wake at 530 (hell earlier than most of normal people), do PT (must be nuts!), and go for lessons or training. You go outfield, sweat it out, never believing you'll be doing something this tough in your whole life and your girlfriend is the last thing on your mind because all you want to do is for the pain to end. That's of course on top of the silly punishments and scoldings you get, but you're a man, you can take this shit. But what you cant take is when you finally get back, you're there expecting you'd get some kind of welcome for your hard day's work, only to find someone else cuddling up your girl (extreme case), hey that's wrong with the script isn't it?

She says you're not talking. You think you dont want to bore her with telling her the same old army stuff all the time.
She says you're always so tired. You think she's never ran SOC in her entire life.
She says you're horny. You think there's something more wrong with looking at dicks the whole week.

In the end, you realise it isn't working out anymore. Not trying to point fingers or anything. Just want to point out that when people say they understand, they don't. Unless they have gone through it themselves. I can imagine the suffering you're going through, but anyone will tell you that when the pain hits, you're in a world of difference.

Well to sum up. I think its a culture thing. This place probably has the lowest rate of couples being the same age. You're much better off finding someone that's younger than you. And if you're still with your girl, kudos to you both and know that you have a great girlfriend to be able to put up with your shit as well. Cheers

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hey nic..dunno wad has happened, but do cheer up as time passes k.. dun brood over unhappy stuff yah :) btw about ur lipton tea entry, i felt so conned last time too! they jus literally tk one tea bag and jus pour hot water! its de same for all their tea actually.. i bought de earl grey tea, also same! lol.
» jac (202.156.2.35) on 2006-07-09 11:30:29

thanks, nah just talking in general
» Koban on 2006-07-12 08:34:54

yeah ttz the army for u. killing brain cells while ur inside and destroying ur civi life at the same time. fucked up la.
» HellSinG on 2006-07-15 10:44:40

haha.. I fully understand man.. been there done that. but now a new lease of life! no worries bro... 11 more months to go!
» AC (203.124.0.248) on 2006-07-15 11:41:55

yoz koban R3405 here :P reading this entry reminded me what happened during bmt... what u said are most probaby true to singapore context, but on the bright side at least there are still some couples who survived through ns ^^
» Squall85 (202.156.2.35) on 2006-07-18 12:14:32

heya willy how are u? nice surprise. haha bmt was a miserable time for me too, but at least the friends there were good.
» Koban on 2006-07-24 09:27:41

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